Valentine’s Day is approaching & what is it all about? LOVE of course… Well, it has had me thinking about Love and what that means in so many different ways. Of course we LOVE our spouses, children, friends, family, pets, food, PINTEREST… & believe it or not LOVE encompasses all that we do and are as human beings. BUT…

Do you know what your love language is?

Mine is Words of Affirmation.

There is an INCREDIBLE book

The 5 Love Languages

Written by Dr. Gary Chapman

I read it once back in 2004 and loved it! Greg and I did several exercises around it in our Pre-Marrital Counseling. Then I read it again in 2010 and in those 6 years later Greg and I found ourselves looking at how we give and receive love to and from each other once again, this time in a different light.  After being married for over 5 years, having two children, a business and a million other life things going on – we realized we had lost control or appreciate of the other person’s love language. And because of it we were failing. Miserably. Plain and simple.

So many times we are loving our spouses in a way that doesn’t communicate to them in a way that they speak, understand or receive love and vice a versa. We are left feeling unloved, not understood, unappreciated and on and on.

For Example:

I receive Greg’s love the best by him telling me how much he appreciates the extra effort I put into things for our kids. The problem though, is that Greg expresses his love is by giving gifts.

So, when he buys me the biggest and best computer to blog with – he is showing me that he loves me. However, I am not feeling loved because I receive love easily by conversations, words of affirmation – so while the computer is AWESOME – I’m not being filled up with the kind of love I want or need and I’m left still feeling things like “He doesn’t get me.” or “Why is he not talking to me?”

Does this mean that if we marry people who speak different love languages than we do that we are doomed as a couple? No not at all.

The point is to learn about the different kinds of love languages, then determine our own love languages along with our spouses.

Since I know Greg’s love language is Gift Giving – I can appreciate the computer for what it is – Him showing me that he loves me. In return, while I build him up with words (because that’s the love language I speak) I have to remember the importance of a gift for him is HUGE. He feels loved when I take the time to bring a little something home from the grocery store for him… Or when I splurge and get him the big bad ma’am o jama grill on our back deck!

I’ve decided to bust back out THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES from the dust on my shelf. I’m taking a long look once again at this awesome concept and I want to share it with you all and ask you to join in with me. I AM INTENTIONALLY RE-PURPOSING this book for my life!

If you have an IPAD download it. If you have a library card, check it out. If  you have a friend that owns it, borrow it. This book will change your outlook on your current relationships. I guarantee it. & No  I’m not being paid to write this post. I’m just that passionate about it and some things in life have fallen into place lately that speak volumes to me about writing this series.

You can go to:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com

 & take the test to determine YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE.

*Dr. Champan has written several books in which we will also take a look at and refer to. – I have yet to read his : The 5 Love Languages of Children – That’s downloading on my IPAD as I type. *

Join me on this journey of Love Languages will you?

Coming Up – Chapter 1 – What Happens to Love After the Wedding

Stay Tuned for More Information!!!

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Love to you ALL!